If not for that quirky, eclectic group of people I call friends in Atascadero….that chapter of my story would not have ended as happily as it did. I needed them; they taught me invaluable lessons, albeit in their own ways, and for that I am grateful. Yet the truth remains: some of my A-town amigos would not be compatible with my life in Memphis and I could not imagine those worlds colliding.
A mutual acquaintance introduced me to her in December. Immediately I knew she was not your typical 805 denizen. Quiet and observant, I only caught glimpses of her sarcasm and quick wit during that first meeting. Little did I know what an influential role she would play in my life.
Pam is a true class act. While others zigzag all over the map, her moral compass remains fixed. Integrity. I associate Pam with having integrity– something too few possess– and she has earned my utmost respect. Straightforward, hardworking, compassionate, sharp as a tack….and that’s only the short list.
Virtually everyone expressed great sympathy for my family’s situation in California. Many offered advice and shared their own horror stories. Yet Pam went above and beyond. Not only did she spend hours on the internet researching family law issues, she offered to accompany me to court and be my advocate. I cannot even tell you how much that support meant to me. Before my Friday morning visits you could find me at Pam’s, taking a hot shower [and not using her towels without permission– heh heh] and getting ready to see Adam. One morning I was beside myself because I did not have the money I expected– and she insisted I take $20 so my son would have a memorable visit. Paying her back? She wouldn’t hear of it.
I doubt Pam realizes how much her friendship means to me or what an inspiration she is. Her love, support, guidance, and wisdom quite literally changed my life. My entire view of relationships has changed. Even with acquaintances I am much more selective. I am a person of value who deserves respect. I will not tolerate anyone who makes me feel badly about myself or brings me down. It’s better to be alone than miserable. I fought the fight of my life to bring my firstborn back to Memphis– and he’s home.
I see much of myself in Pam. And I hope to make her proud of me. Have a wonderful birthday and much love. ❤
With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,