MBC13

• March Blog Challenge •
Day 13: Do you have regret?

Here’s an actual answer of mine from a MySpace survey several years ago:. “‘No regrets’ summarizes my philosophy on life. Do I make mistakes? Of course. Are there things I would have done differently? Oh yeah. But life is too short to dwell on what could have been. There’s no use crying over spilled milk. Mop it up and move on. Instead of regret view everything as a learning experience. Objectively analyze the situation. Be prepared to face some harsh truths. What were the consequences? Use this knowledge to prevent you from similar outcomes in the future. It’s much easier said than done– and most of us make the same mistakes multiple times before we actually learn– but I try valiantly to have no regrets.

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My first apartment [with Megan!] was such a fun time.

Two regrets of mine both involve travel.

In 2007 there was an opportunity for English majors at the University of Memphis to spend six weeks in Romania helping local students learn the English language. Cultural immersion, including staying with a host family, going on field trips, and taking classes on language and history, was the dual focus. It was perfect for me– community service, culture, school credit, doing something I loved and could do well, interesting classes, being in an area of the world where I’ve always wanted to travel, and the experience of studying abroad without the commitment of a full semester. Yet I inexplicably watched the deadline come and go without ever submitting my paperwork.

The next winter I declined an offer to fly to New York to visit my dear friend, Sean Krause. He understood my hesitations about traveling with a 9-month-old Adam [and respected the fact that leaving him during his first Christmas season wasn't an option] and we both agreed to take a rain check. Tragically, we never got that chance because he passed away in February.

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Name checked by Greta

So when I got an invitation to fly to NYC and appear on Fox News the following year…I didn’t hesitate. Adam would enjoy a week of being spoiled by his grandparents while I pursued a once in a lifetime opportunity. As I sat in the green room giggling from nerves I thought of Sean, my mentor, and his appearance on Greta Van Susteren’s show. As I wandered aimlessly around the city streets, soaking up my first time in the Big Apple, I knew Sean would be so proud. As I experienced a satsang with Alan Gompers [a personal hero of mine] in Greenwich Village, a transformative experience, I thanked Sean for his help getting me here.”

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The last thing I saw before I walked on stage and met the life studio audience

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“So in the end, was it worth it? Jesus Christ. How irreparably changed my life has become. It’s always the last day of summer and I’ve been left out in the cold with no door to get back in. I’ll grant you I’ve had more than my share of poignant moments. Life passes most people by while they’re making grand plans for it. Throughout my lifetime, I’ve left pieces of my heart here and there. And now, there’s almost not enough to stay alive. But I force a smile, knowing that my ambition far exceeded my talent. There are no more white horses or pretty ladies at my door.” ~ Blow

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,
Sloane

I would like some cheese with my whine

Sickness permeates the atmosphere of the Wilke-Reed casa.  Adam has strep throat, Will has been vomiting profusely, my mom is on the tail end of a bug that made her dizzy and weak and I feel like I have all of the above.  Blah.  The three of us have been lying around all day trying to relax and stay hydrated.  I’ve also tried valiantly to avoid the news because there is not enough Promethazine in the world to eradicate the nausea– and anger, frustration, and disgust– knowing that this callous child killer walks free.

Being stressed to the max certainly isn’t helping anything.  I try my best to avoid it but when it surrounds me from all directions from every person I encounter it’s inevitable.  Will got hit with a double whammy yesterday:  some loans he’d expected fell through and certain members of their family put their sorry white trash on full display.

Excellent product placement

If you’re loaning/giving me $100, a new car, my own private island– whatever– I’m not going to rely on anything until it’s in my hands.  This has absolutely nothing to do with the credibility of the individual, it’s just me being cautious and pragmatic.  Discussing money irritates me to no end so I’m just going to stop this conversation right here.  Luckily we requested money to get ahead– not get out of debt– so it’s not the end of the world that things fell through.  Being broke has only strengthened our union.  The couple that eats Ramen noodles together stays together!  Actually, our diet’s a little better than that because we have food stamps, so we can be poor and still have fresh produce.  Win.

As for his family….wow.  Just wow.  I adore Will’s sisters, Holly and Angela, and his Grandma Elder.  And I miss his Grandpa Elder every day.  Those are the only kinfolk of his I’ve actually met but even the ones I only ‘know’ through Facebook seem like great people and you can tell they genuinely care for Will and our little family.  However, Grandma Dorris and Uncle Jimmy can– to steal a beautiful quote from Miss Britney Jean Spears– “kiss my lily white southern Louisiana ass.” Substitute ‘Tennessee’ for ‘Louisiana’ and there you have it.  Part of me wants to chastise these lowlife scumbags for what they’ve done and how they talked to my husband publicly on this blog…..but they aren’t worth anymore of my time and energy.  Suffice it to say they’ll have a lot of explaining to do when they meet their maker.

Auto correct always puts a smile on my face

All this complaining isn’t good for my health and does nothing to solve my problems.  So I’d like to take a moment to congratulate Will on his awesome new mechanic job that will allow us to live comfortably.  We also decided on our apartments so now it’s only a matter of weeks before we are able to move.  More on both of those later.

Between feeling like total dog poo and getting riled up about the aforementioned topics….don’t even get me started on June’s welfare rant.  The only thing worse in life than talking to computer techs over the phone is dealing with anyone from the ’public assistance’ section of the government.  I completely agree with her thoughts and would like to write a companion piece when I get to feeling better.  Goodnight all.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,
Sloane

Getting away with murder?

Antoine Dodson spoke the truth.

Universally speaking, most people agree that each of these defendants are guilty of murder– and they got away with it.  While O.J. Simpson’s ex-wife and her friend were killed [in my opinion] in a coldblooded and premeditated crime, I believe Casey Anthony accidentally killed her daughter– though she was playing with lethal fire in her attempts to sedate her– and panicked.  So many individuals seemed shocked that both of these criminals walked free.  Did the prosecution failed to meet their burden?  Or was the defense just that phenomenal?  Maybe both?  I think much larger questions are raised with certain acquittals…..gender, race, socioeconomic status, the caliber of lawyers & witnesses, celebrity, and even whether or not somebody is considered attractive. 

I remember seeing the O.J. trial when I was ten.  More than any specific evidence I can recall the impassioned pleas of Nicole Brown Simpson’s sister and Ron Goldman’s parents, wanting justice.  While their loss is no less tragic– and two relatively young lives were cut short– at least the families can take some degree of comfort knowing they had lived life.  Caylee never even had a chance.

People will be outraged for awhile but soon enough the feelings will fade and some will forget.  For others, that will be impossible. This isn’t Nancy Grace’s trial du jour…..and for those who have been involved since the very beginning– we won’t ever keep this far from our minds.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

This verdict is like a bad dream

Sean Krause, I miss you so. Your videos bring a smile to my face and a fighting spirit to my soul. Please go haunt Casey Anthony now.

I know there have been quite a few people– regardless of their opinions on Casey Anthony’s guilt or innocence– who believe that the prosecution did not meet their burden and the evidence was lacking. That’s precisely how jurors should analyze the information, as objectively as possible without succumbing to emotions and rampant speculation. However, I assert that there WAS ample evidence to warrant a guilty verdict on the charges of aggravated child abuse and aggravated manslaughter. Eventually I will share my reasoning [backed by evidence] with you as to why I believe the defendant is guilty….but I cannot even begin to give a time frame for when you should expect to see that due to its novel-length. The end is finally in sight for my piece on ‘Zanny The Nanny’– what a heartbreaking tale. Not only would Caylee still be alive if anyone ever insisted on meeting the fictitious caregivers but it speaks volumes about the bizarre family dynamic of the Anthony’s and how they cater to their pathological liar of a daughter.

[[ David Lohr – The Huffington Post ]]

Casey Anthony Juror: Sick To Our Stomachs Over Verdict

Legal Experts: Casey Will Be Released From Jail

If the defendant who got away with murder walks free tomorrow…..my mind just can’t even comprehend that.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

Not guilty

Casey Anthony: NOT GUILTY.

Sickened, disgusted, frustrated, saddened, angered, betrayed…..all of these are adequate descriptions of my response to the verdict. One thing I am not, however, is shocked. From the very beginning I had a sinking feeling that the defendant would not be charged with murder in the first degree. Before I proceed let me refresh your memory on the exact charges and a brief description of each:

  • First degree murder: NOT GUILTY

    Subdivided into premeditated [planned and willful] or felony [a death occurs-- even if it is an accident-- from certain violent felonies such as kidnapping] though a distinction was not necessary nor did the jurors have to agree on which type of murder in the first degree

  • Aggravated child abuse: NOT GUILTY

    Committing an aggravated battery [intentionally causing physical harm] on a child; willfully torturing, maliciously punishing, or willfully and unlawfully caging a child; or knowingly and willfully abusing a child and in doing so causing great bodily harm, permanent disability, or permanent disfigurement

  • Aggravated manslaughter of a child: NOT GUILTY

    Recklessly causing the death of a minor under circumstances manifesting extreme indifference to human life

  • (4 counts) Providing false information to a law enforcement officer: GUILTY

    I don’t think this requires an explanation.

* Summarizations from Florida attorney Richard Hornsby’s website

We won't forget you

Let’s not mince words here: you’d have to be a buffoon to NOT find Casey Anthony guilty of criminal activity. Her tangled web of lies and deceit shows a cunning young woman with little regard for anyone but herself. Undoubtedly– by her own admission– she told multiple fabrications to the police and lead them on a wild goose chase, so it’s no surprise she was indicted for those four charges. As for her treatment towards her precious daughter, whether you believe she was ‘merely a bad parent’ [and I put that in quotations only because neglecting and/or abusing her child were the least of her judicial concerns] or a cold-blooded killer who premeditated the murder of her daughter…..there is no question she was a terrible mother who resented her own flesh and blood for hindering the carefree lifestyle of a party girl that she so desperately wanted. Her appalling behavior as a person and failure as a parent should not go unpunished.

The jurors must be convinced that the prosecution proved beyond a reasonable doubt that the defendant was guilty of each charge. As I previously stared, I did not think there would be a murder one charge because of the lack of hard evidence. All signs point to the defendant’s [I don't even want to use the bitch's name] guilt but our legal system requires a verdict derived from analysis of the facts and evidence directly presented in trial– not speculation or character analysis– even if it is blatantly obvious her hands are dirty. Leaving murder out of the equation…I think the state met the burden of proof for both charges of child abuse, so I was surprised at the acquittal there. Furthermore, I’ll never understand why negligence charges were not included, especially after the discovery of the fictitious ‘Zanny the Nanny.’  If there was no nanny, where was Caylee while Casey was out doing god knows what?!

Megan Childers, one of my close friends who has been following the trial since day one, shared my beliefs about the outcome of the verdict. She drew an interesting parallel to the West Memphis 3. People have been sentenced to death with a lot less evidence than we saw in this case, and it can also work the opposite way. Our justice system is deeply flawed….guilty people get away with murder and innocents are wrongfully accused and placed on death row.

The defendant’s verdict in the court of public opinion was reached long ago. She’ll never be able to live a normal life. What absolutely sickens me is the prospect of her using this trial for financial gain. If she profits from the loss of her little girl– death at her hands [although I do believe it was an accident]– I hope Caylee comes back to haunt her. Seeing her tears of happiness and her huge grin today made me want to vomit. Her cold, detached, and emotionless demeanor gave way to an overjoyed and victorious manipulator. Of course she’s happy! She wins. Not only did she get away with it, she’ll be out of prison in no time at all.

I'm so sorry, Caylee

If the ruling and the defendant’s behavior wasn’t nauseating enough– watching the grins and embraces of the defense and seeing Jose Baez’s press conference sent me over the edge. He’s just as smug and arrogant as she is. The nerve of him to sit there and start thanking his family [especially that wonderful sidebar in his native tongue] was so beyond inappropriate. How tacky. Thanking your family?! An innocent child was murdered, he acted like a charlatan in the courtroom, and he’s talking about how proud he is that his healthy and living kids will praise their Daddy for doing his job? Shame on you. It’s not the Academy Awards, jackass.

Her family’s reaction says it all: Lee didn’t even bother to attend. George and Cindy didn’t smile or hug each other, they walked out of the court with their heads down. Casey destroyed her family. They know she did it and they know she got away with it. Despite the fact that her mother perjured….even they know justice was not served.  Like many people I think George Anthony has details he’s not divulging– though I do feel an immense deal of sympathy [more for him than anyone else in that ridiculous family]– but I am confident that he did not ever molest his daughter nor did he cover up the ‘accidental drowning’ of his beloved granddaughter.

What terrifies me is the idea of the defendant having more children. You know there are men out there who have been writing her incessantly and would marry her. She’ll still be within the limits of her biological clock when she’s released. But honestly, I’m not too scared about that….because I don’t think she’ll be alive for long once she’s in the free world. I do not in any way condone violence– and especially not murder– but I have a strong feeling she will be shot and killed as she’s leaving prison or shortly thereafter. Too many people were affected so deeply by this case and are absolutely incensed over the acquittal. As terrible as this sounds, I would not be surprised if it was a suburban soccer mom who drives her kids around in a minivan that pulls the trigger. This case has affected people in ways I have never seen.

I know Sean Krause is rolling over in his grave right now. Forgive my strong language, but this verdict was a big F*CK YOU to Caylee. That poor little girl died…..for what? Nobody will ever pay the price for cutting her life short so cruelly and unnecessarily. And that is a tragedy of epic proportions. Caylee, people will never forget you, nor will they ever stop talking or demanding justice and accountability– your death will not be in vain. I’m so sorry they failed you today. Rest in peace, sweet angel.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

Independence Day

Our Fourth of July was wonderful. All three of us exercised our right to sleep late and relax. Sometimes a lazy morning just hits the spot. ;)

Adam and his lady love, Carley <3

Will hasn’t followed the trial closely– he didn’t even know the charges against the defendant– but even he tuned in yesterday as the jury began deliberations. Neither one of us anticipates a lengthy wait. I would never want to rush a jury encourage them to be anything less than thorough….but I’m so ready to see the verdict. Anything less than guiltyfor all counts does not do justice for Caylee– though I do not necessarily think the defendant will be found guilty of first degree murder.  UPDATE:  THE VERDICT IS IN!!  12:50 CST

What did you do to celebrate Independence Day? I know I felt overwhelmed with gratitude for our military, while wishing all of the men and women serving our country were safe within our boundaries. Read the poignant story of Cpl. Andrew C. Wilfarht, killed in Afghanistan this February. His parents honor his legacy by their active participation in the quest for equal rights for all. While nobody will argue that Cpl. Wilfarht was an outstanding person– a brave soul, a true American Hero– I believe the same can be said for his parents, Jeff and Lori. Thinking about our troops reaffirmed my commitment to Feed Our Vets– I am determined to launch a Memphis chapter of this incredible organization.

With fireworks and food in tow we headed to Nathan and Danielle’s for a cookout. Watching Adam, Carley, and Ethan enjoy the fireworks and play with their sparklers [no sparkler for Ethan due to age restrictions!] was a blast. Danielle and I made a beverage run and the boys watched the kids and cooked for us. We both joked that we could definitely get used to that arrangement– girl time knowing our children are in the most capable hands– AND there’s delicious food waiting upon our return?! Yes please!

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

Closing arguments

Rest in peace, Caylee

As I write this court is adjourned for lunch. Once the jury returns the closing arguments will resume. What are your thoughts regarding any new developments or major bombshells revealed during the proceedings? Let us all hope that Caylee gets justice.

Though I have been unable to follow the trial as I wanted to….within these next few days I will publish my ‘Zanny the Nanny’ piece, what stood out the most to me from the courtroom, and my prediction as to the verdict [and subsequent response once it has arrived]. In the meantime I encourage you all to become the thirteenth juror with David Lohr and formulate your own opinions.  Also read his description of today’s events.  What do you think the verdict will be?

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

Sidewalk chalk, The Teflon Cauldron, and sooty mangabeys

Family gardens and a ‘pizza pot’ project

We’re so excited about our family garden! I told my husband that all I wanted for my birthday was my own little section of soil ready to be planted. Even if you aren’t looking to make gardening an educational activity with your children, there are excellent tips in the article for making the most out of your space with a container garden. The idea of plucking something from the backyard and incorporating it into a meal thrills me.

Sidewalk chalk

My friend, Jessica, shared this link with us. Adam’s only played with sidewalk chalk a few times because it’s one of those products that I always forget exists. Now I won’t have that as an excuse anymore because I’ll just whip up a batch of my own. Much like the garden, this is another fun summer project that is great for families but certainly doesn’t require kids….or anyone other than your adult self for that matter.

‘Casey Anthony Trial Pits Mother Against Son’

Another comprehensive article from David Lohr on The Huffington Post. I’ll continue to link to his articles throughout the trial. Please explore his other articles on the Post if you haven’t already as he is one of my absolute favorite reporters.

Obsessed?

Are you a mom who is becoming obsessed with the Casey Anthony trial? An interesting phenomenon….

What happened to Christian Choate is horrific beyond words– the negligence of DHS is appalling– and everyone that had a chance to save this boy and failed to act should be prosecuted

How can anyone hurt a child, much less their own? Hearing about the torment suffered by kids at the hands of adults is so profoundly disturbing….but we need to keep the spotlight of the public on these instances so we are compelled to act. Forty years ago child abuse was a taboo topic. We’re far from where we need to be as a society and in terms of law enforcement and government involvement– yet the more we acknowledge this disturbing epidemic the more we can do to work towards its eradication.

The Teflon Cauldron

Want to know about modern paganism in the Mid-South area? Check out the newly revamped Teflon Cauldron and offer your input for what you want to see. As I’ve stated many times, I am so proud to be a part of a spiritual community that encourages all religious traditions.

Does this monkey hold the cure for AIDS?

I’ve heard rumblings about this before…..and I really hope that scientists are onto something here. But I can’t get over the photo here. Sooty mangabeys looks fierce. He knows he’s he’s got this.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,
Sloane

Trial updates

Keeping up with the trial for the purposes of this blog is something I can no longer do…..I’m struggling enough to follow the daily proceedings without the added burden of translating them into posts. Forgive me for my lack of coverage. I’ll share with you some of the best places to get sources regarding the Casey Anthony murder trial:

  1. David Lohr on The Huffington PostNot only did Mr. Lohr know my dear friend, Sean Krause, but he is an excellent crime reporter. Three of his most recent articles on the case are:  Spectators Fight Outside Courthouse; Trial Lawyers Raise Incest Issues, Question FBI Witness About Paternity Tests; and Angry Judge Scolds Both Sides.
  2. Twitter@Trial Notes [the most comprehensive up-to-the minute reviews]

    @issueswjvm [Jane Velez-Mitchell]

    @TeamNancyHLN [Nancy Grace]

    * A #CaseyAnthony tag yields results as well, but as always, consider the source.

  3. The Orlando SentinelHands down, this is some of the best information out there. Not only are there links to countless documents, chronological major events are displayed along the current trial highlights, and there is a live stream.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

Trial part 1 – General

Whenever I am discussing a trial I feel almost fraudulent unless I base my information off of the actual courtroom proceedings as I see them. I prefer to watch events in real time and analyze a transcript after the fact. So it’s been very hard to reconcile the fact that I won’t have much time to watch the trial uninterrupted until Adam begins summer school on June 6th– and even then I’ll be sharing that time with my daily responsibilities. Watching Nancy Grace, following various Twitter feeds, and reading the blogs of others are acceptable sources of material. Forgive me for my insufficient coverage thus far. These next few days will be pivotal for me in terms of catching up with the Caylee Anthony case.

Here a few bullet points from my notes during opening arguments:

Calling George Anthony as the state’s first witness was a smart move. For many, the bombshell allegations of sexual abuse came out of left field. If the jury believes VWD a victim; however, that will be taken into account though it is certainly no motive and/or justification for murder nor does it explain why there would be such an elaborate cover up if it was– as the defense suggested– an accidental drowning. Promptly placing George on the stand to vehemently deny that he ever touched VWD inappropriately addresses this ugly speculation immediately. Furthermore, if VWD’s father was indeed the terrible monster she painted him out to be, why in the hell would she allow her daughter to be around him?

On July 24, 2008, Cindy Anthony frantically dials 911 saying her granddaughter has been missing for thirty days. At one point during the exchange she tells the police that they need to arrest her daughter. If Caylee was missing, shouldn’t Cindy focus her efforts on apprehending the kidnapper? As if waiting an entire month to tell her wasn’t enough….Cindy clearly thinks her daughter knows something that warrants placing her behind bars. It is no secret Cindy thinks VWD is an unfit mother and this further solidifies that train of thought.

The prosecution’s use of a systematic, day-by-day time line of VWD’s whereabouts proved extremely effective. No two people grieve the same way– psychiatrists cannot provide a model for how to behave after a tragedy– but casually strolling into Target to buy beer and lingerie with your friend’s forged checks doesn’t exactly scream grieving mother of missing and/or deceased child. Neither does entering ‘hot body’ contests at local night clubs.

La bella vita.

Italian for ‘the beautiful life,’ this is the tattoo VWD inked onto her skin two weeks after her daughter was last seen alive. Sickening. Life must be pretty peachy for her– spending the days lounging around watching television with her boyfriend, nursing the previous evening’s hangover, and preparing to hit the club circuit come nightfall. No pesky toddler to interrupt her plans anymore. What a narcissistic, callous monster.

Overall the defense’s theory, according to defense attorney Richard Hornsby [who does not represent VWD, but spoke to People magazine regarding the case], “Jose Baez threw everything against the wall and is seeing what sticks.” I’ll let you ponder the risks and implications associated with such a technique.

No example demonstrates the bizarre family dynamics of the Anthony’s than the mention of ‘Zanny the nanny.’ This fictitious caregiver reveals so much not only about VWD but her parents and brother as well. My next post will further explore ‘Zenaida Fernandez-Gonzalez’ and her role in the trial.

With infinite love, gratitude, and respect,

Sloane

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